So, last year there was this new fraternity starting back on the lovely CSUN campus. I happen to be in a sorority and was walking by when I saw them and decided to hop in and say hi.
I met this guy who we will refer to as NHR (National Hottie Rep). I immediately thought that he was adorable, and hott, and talked to him and we clicked in convo too. Amazing right? Well, anyway we ended up hanging out that evening we went to my place and watched a movie and made plans to meet the next day. Everything was fine and well, or so I thought. The next day, NHR didn't pick up the phone and missed our plans. So, I dismissed the whole situation. I bounced back.
So, cut to this year... A couple of guys I know just joined the fraternity the NHR is a rep for. I asked about him and they said that he was in town for their rush. I was excited I wanted to talk to him. After all, we did have good convo it would be nice to see him. Plus, I guess part of me wanted to know what happened. Why he broke our plans.
When I saw him he immediately recognized me and we hugged it was good to talk to him again. And then this other girl came in. It was like they knew each other. Obviously not for that long because he had just come back in town but, it was obvious that they had been talking. Whatever you know. But, then I asked him if he wanted to go get coffee or something and he pulled the I'm too busy card.
Well, yesterday evening was the guys last fraternity rush event and I went to say hi to the guys and to be honest was hoping to see NHR. He was there and so was the girl. We talked, and, then she pulled the I'm not talking to this other girl act. Even though we have known each other and been on committees with each other. She pulled the girl card. So, I just decided to talk to other people and have fun. And, I was but, I was just trying to figure NHR out. I guess that was my first problem. I shouldn't be figuring out the male species. So, I just left I wasn't going to ponder it anymore. I went to say goodbye to him and that was that.
But, I will always wonder about him because I wonder if that's what he does. If he goes to the different colleges and just meets different girls for the week and move on. if he makes every girl feel like I felt when talking to him.
I wonder why the other girl felt she had to pull the girl card with me although we've known each other for awhile. I guess girls will always look out for number one. And boys too!
So, I am going to start thinking about number one too! And start telling these people when I am hurt because they shouldn't do that. And, no, not everyone is nice.
But, I have a right to let you know not to treat me a certain way too! And, I think I am going to start implementing that rule in my life. I have too many boys who walk all over me and it's time for that to stop. So, I'm taking control of my life back.
To be honest with you - I think you put way too much stock into what people do to you. People can only do to you what you allow. They don't care what you think they should or shouldn;t do - they (as we all) will do what they please. It's up to you to either let it get to you or let it roll off your back.
ReplyDeleteNo one should manipulate, you or play with your emotions, but once again these things are only allowed in your life, by you. And don't buy the BS that in protecting your own interest you've done something to hurt the other party after they''ve screwed you over. DUDE! Do you. Don't think others will be interested or willing to be submissive to what you think they should do or not do to you. Think about what you should do for you.
Word from the wise.
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i think i can sum up what happened. you guys went on a first date, you thought you clicked, he thought you were a weirdo, so he never called you back. it happens. often. get over it.
ReplyDeleteduring this time, he hasnt thought of you, once. though he has been thinking of many many other girls. he has had relationships, and formed new bonds, and this other girl is probably one of those other bonds. she is probably far more connected to him, and invested in him than you could ever be. then you come along and put yourself all up on her man and she thinks "hey, whos this crazy girl who went on one flippin date with him, and thinks she owns him."
in short, fucking get over it.
Ooo!! Ouch Fallen Angel...
ReplyDeleteI guess I will just f*ing get over it cause you said to!
LOL! I was already over it though just thinking about it though. It happens but, you move on.
No obsessing here though girly...
Obviously the NHR and the girl can do whatever they want.
But, so can I!! :-)
Thanks!! Byeee!!!